As men we try every day to find ways to relate well, to be good fathers, and to manage our lives with some grace and skill. We try to be men who are generous, kind and fair. And when it isn't working, when we can't be that man, it hurts. William Pollack once described men's anger as their "way of weeping" but we also weep by drinking, withdrawing, blaming others, working too much, competing too hard, getting angry and having affairs.
Good therapy gives you the chance to work on these issues – and more – with someone you can trust to give you practical help, to offer some usable skills and to be straight with you. It's never easy to show up for therapy, and I think for men that can be especially true, but if parts of your life and relationships aren't working, then maybe it's time.